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Dancing to Bachata.. yes, Sir!

MSC archived stories - December 17, 2020

The year-end almost upon us, but no word from Nelson in Santo Domingo, the DR, well.. until today. After a year of no news from him, I wondered what was wrong.. being 'bit rebel'. (letter added to My Media)

 

He reminds my two younger brothers when I was at his age (10), and I was the peacemaker in our family. Whenever I open my mouth everyone naturally goes into silence showing deep respect to their eldest son/brother. To me Nelson is no difference, so didn't waste a second to write him back..

 

Dear Nelson,

How lovely to hear from you. I've been counting fingers to the day I know that you are safe and doing well, especially in this pandemic year.

I love everything you told me about your ambition and favorite food, but then also your behavior, hmm..

When I was at your age, I had two brothers, just like you.. rebellious at times, so my mum used to turn to me for rescue and make peace within our household. I think the God has sent me to rescue you too.

I did not know much of Caribbean music until you told me 'Bachatas'. I just started listening to it, and must say, honestly I was literally dancing to tunes whilst writing this letter. There you go.. dance therapy for you!

When you put yourself in 'bit rebel' situation, will you do me a favor.. (yes, Sir!) and dance to your favorite Bachata in front of your parents, and tell me how you feel? Dance and music have the universal power to calm our soul and bring us together, so I can picture you 'dancing' to improve your behavior.

Take care and Happy Christmas!

Love, Chelaka

Comments

  1. chelaka25 March 2025 at 20:27

    Reading Nelson's letter and your response to it was fascinating and instructive. Thanks for posting both!! He gives you a challenge by discussing his 'rebel worries'. You answer by validating what he has written and manage to share some adult wisdom in a child friendly way. You may well be the person whose guidance sets him back on course toward achieving his goals!

    December 18, 2020

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  2. chelaka25 March 2025 at 20:27

    Thank you, Nancy. I'm glad he's serious about doing something about it at age 10 to the point that his parents must be having such a hard time controlling him; if my strategy worked, hopefully he’ll start to write often!

    December 18, 2020

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  3. chelaka25 March 2025 at 20:27

    chelaka, it is quite amazing how much Nelson opened up to you...and it was wonderful for you to write back right away and give him some good advice!

    December 19, 2020

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